Unlike most things in life, grief does not follow any set rules.
It can unexpectedly appear out of nowhere, providing no time to ‘prepare’. It does not come with a deadline, so its length of stay is never known. It affects each individual in a different manner, thereby providing roadblocks for family and friends trying to help.
This all contributes to why the grieving process is so difficult to navigate. And why so many people who grieve begin to get frustrated with themselves, as it feels like you have no control over grief’s effects.
Although there is no single set of guidelines that help you process grief, there is one key thing you can do that will help you along the way. Being kind to yourself while dealing with your grief is the best way to get through this difficult time period.
Putting Yourself First
When it comes to grief and mourning, taking good care of yourself is not selfish – it’s essential self-care. Be patient with yourself, allowing time to help with healing. Take time to do anything that brings you joy – and don’t feel guilty spending time doing so. When you make mistakes, be gentle with yourself.
Taking care of yourself involves five different facets to consider: physical health, nutritional health, social health, emotional/mental health and financial health.
#1) Physical Health
Being physically fit is as important as ever when it comes to coping with grief.
Staying active will not only reduce anxiety, but it can also help you sleep. It’s important to regularly visit your doctor and get a yearly blood test, too.
#2) Nutritional Health
Weight gain can exacerbate the need to stay active and socialize with others, so make healthy eating a priority.
Avoid overeating (common when dealing with grief) by keeping healthy snacks and lots of fruits and vegetables in the house.
#3) Social Health
Humans are social creatures and find comfort when surrounded by family and friends.
Avoid being alone all the time by accepting your friends’ invitations – even when you don’t feel like getting out of the house. Don’t go into hiding!
#4) Emotional and Mental Health
Taking care of your emotional health starts with thinking positively. Slowly over time, each day will get easier to cope with. Meditation can help set a healthy, positive mindset.
#5) Financial Health
Remaining on top of any paperwork will eliminate any unnecessary stress or worry, allowing you to cope better with your grief.
In many households, one partner normally takes care of the majority of the financial tasks. Ask for help from a trusted friend or professional if you do not have experience completing the household expenses.
Getting on the Road to Recovery
Some of the hardest times in your life are when you’re grieving and mourning the loss of someone special. Remembering to be kind to yourself throughout the process can help you to eventually have more good days than bad.
For more advice dealing with grief, contact the professional team at Circle of Life Cremation and Burial Centre Inc.