Regardless of how much time has passed since you’ve lost a loved one, special holidays and occasions often trigger powerful emotions and memories.
If you’ve lost a spouse, then Valentine’s Day, the “couple’s holiday”, may be an especially emotional time for you. But with our expert tips below, hopefully you can manage your grief a little bit easier on this special occasion.
Cut Yourself Some Slack
If a long time has passed since losing your loved one, you may be frustrated about the powerful emotions that you are still experiencing.
Try to be easy on yourself and know that you’re not alone. Those close to you will understand that this is a difficult holiday for you and will be open to doing anything to help you through your grief. Lean on them for support when needed.
Include Your Loved One in New Traditions
Most likely you had your own set of Valentine’s Day traditions with your spouse – maybe it was to go to the same restaurant every year, or exchange fancy chocolates with each other.
Perhaps this year instead, take a single friend to that restaurant – or exchange chocolates with your children instead. Try to find a way to build a new tradition.
Talk About Your Spouse
There’s a reason why therapy works: talking helps deal with grief.
Although it may be difficult for you to hear your loved one’s name or memories of the past involving him/her, it can be even harder when people pretend they never existed. Friends, coworkers and family members will look to you for their cue on how to act around Valentine’s Day.
Only if it makes you feel better, say your loved one’s name and recount memories about what you both used to do for Valentine’s Day. People close to you may then feel comfortable mentioning your loved one as well.
Be Your Own Valentine
Remember that you are also physically taxed by grief. Poor eating habits, lack of exercise and inadequate sleep may be due to the buildup surrounding Valentine’s Day.
If that’s the case with you, take time for some self-love on this holiday. Do whatever makes you happy – whether it be going for a walk, or ordering in from your favourite restaurant. Pay attention to your physical needs.
Follow Your Own Set of Rules
Remember, there is no “correct” way to mourn a loved one’s death. Give yourself the freedom to grieve in your own way.
Circle of Life Cremation and Burial Centre Inc.: We’re Here for You on Valentine’s Day
Want more tips to help you throughout your grief and healing? At Circle of Life Cremation and Burial Centre Inc., we offer numerous grief support resources, including our 365 Days of Support program and access to an in-house Grief Counselor.
Contact us today for more details about our services.